If only these jeans would fit. If only that shirt didn’t gape when I did up the buttons. If only, if only I was a different size, a different shape, a different colour.
Is it really about size and shape and colour or it about something else? Is it about thinking that because that don’t look like a supermodel that we were somehow inferior to everyone else?
Where did we get that idea from?
Some of the most attractive people that I have met aren’t that good looking but they are kind and sensitive. They have this way of making you feel great.
They warm and friendly to meet, they are fascinated by your conversation and kind in what they say. They have a gentleness about them and a good sense of humour. They always leave you feeling special.
What if we decided that the most important thing was loving other people, was being a kind friend and encouraging them, when they don't feel good?
Suddenly the equation changes. It’s not all about us so we can relax. Our clothes don’t make us who we are. It's about what we do and say. It's about how we make other people feel.
What if we decided that the next time that we were feeling down about ourselves that we went out and did something for someone else? We could help out the family with the ironing or take our little sister out for an ice cream. We could help an old lady struggling with a trolley and offer to pack the bags into the boot.
Simple things like this, can do so much good.
When we do things for other people, suddenly the equation changes. It’s not all about us so we can relax and feel good about ourselves. Our clothes don’t make us who we are. It's about what we do and say. It's about how we make other people feel.
Each day can be phenomenal when we realise that we can be there for others. On the way, we become the incredible people that we were meant to be.